"Yeah," Hange says calmly. "If someone looks like they're feeling tired, or they need to do something else, or if they have to go home - you have to let them go."
"I don't know. Maybe if you live in a time of peace..."
Hange shrugs, and drags herself away from the contemplation of her lost comrades.
"Anyway - if you want to become less selfish, think about how you can offer your friends what they want and need. Be good to them. Make sure they're really having fun with you and ease up if they're not."
"Sometimes you won't and people won't tell you. Watch body language. If someone's pulling away from you, let them go, or hold them loosely enough in the first place that they can pull away. Eyes and shoulders are good things to watch... I'm a bad person to ask about this, honestly, because I'm not always good at it."
"Yeah." Dry. "And you get why that is, right? Because someone who is predisposed to dislike you is probably not the best person to build a lasting relationship with."
She swallows her laugh, and then shakes herself a bit, still in place.
"Well - there's things you need to think about adjusting, to maintain your relationships better. Selfishness, for instance, is something that will exhaust people and eventually drive them away from you, because it means you're sustained, and they're not... they'll go to what sustains them. But there's parts of you that aren't wrong, but just aren't to everyone's taste, and your most successful relationships will probably be with people whose taste they are."
At this, Hange simply nods. It's Betelgeuse's prerogative on how to handle this, whether he wants to try and make two boyfriends work, or dump them all. Hange has minimal relationship experience so...
"Do you still want to try being human? We talked about it before."
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Hange shrugs, and drags herself away from the contemplation of her lost comrades.
"Anyway - if you want to become less selfish, think about how you can offer your friends what they want and need. Be good to them. Make sure they're really having fun with you and ease up if they're not."
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"How do you know if they're really having fun or if they're lying that they are and really just stalling until they can find the exits?"
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"I'm great at noticing when people are scared of me! Maybe I can twist that into 'general disgust or dislike'!"
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"Yeah, tell that to my ex-wives. I get it, I get it."
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"Just the two."
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She swallows her laugh, and then shakes herself a bit, still in place.
"Well - there's things you need to think about adjusting, to maintain your relationships better. Selfishness, for instance, is something that will exhaust people and eventually drive them away from you, because it means you're sustained, and they're not... they'll go to what sustains them. But there's parts of you that aren't wrong, but just aren't to everyone's taste, and your most successful relationships will probably be with people whose taste they are."
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"The new kid is exactly my type. Undead, cute, likes murder and musicals. Rhys is pissed."
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"No, he's right. I did him dirty. I broke it off with baby vamp and I'll go write an apology song to Stringbean."
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"Do you still want to try being human? We talked about it before."
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"I thought you forgot about that!"
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"Can we do that? Can you ask the Admiral?"
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"Hey, can I hug you? Because you are making all my wildest dreams come true."
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