"I asked about it." So she'll move on. "Anyway: being less selfish. Maybe a good thing to do would be, I don't know... maybe ask your friends sometimes about nice things you could do for them? If they're having a good time? Paying attention to whether someone is actually having a good time when they're interacting with you, or trying to escape? You tend to want to hang on to people, but sometimes you'll actually build a stronger bond with people if you show you're willing to let them go..."